A lot of times, people go through life without necessarily understanding or even figuring out what they were meant to be or do.
This is inappropriate because it suggests that they are charging through life blindly with a hope that everything just pans out. A lot of people are still at the survival stage of life, merely existing and groaning under the weight of bills long overdue and have no idea or knowledge of what they truly live for.
While some people would attribute purpose to a higher being, others do not have the slightest clue as to why it is even necessary to find a why.
There are a lot of reasons why discovering you’re why is important. Apart from the conventional reasons which would include advancement and success in life, finding you’re why creates in you a sense of worth and purpose and it is what wakes you up in the morning, it keeps you focused and resilient in whatever you find to do.
Stages
Everyone goes through the stage of survival, status, freedom and very few get to the stage of purpose.
Survival
Everyone survives, tries to find a means to get by every day and while this is inevitable, it is completely devoid of purpose and reason. You basically go through the day because you have to and not because you want to. This is a very passive way to live because your decisions and actions are merely reactive to whatever situations you find yourself. There’s no conscious and proactive measure taken to steer your life in a direction. This is the base and more like living life on the margin.
Status
Some other people believe in some temporary reason such as status or relationship. While everyone belongs to social strata and class and as much as it is necessary to create and sustain relationships, these cannot be the driving force of your reality. What happens next after you attain membership of that golf club or after you are able to secure a relationship with the woman of your dreams. The problem is that people want to build their lives on these factors and only these cannot sustain you. This constitutes a reason why people break off engagements or marriages because they felt something was missing. You need to decipher your purpose and you’re why in order to live a completely fulfilled life. This does not mean that it will be a home run and you would not face challenges but it does mean you would have a reason to fight for your life and in life.
Purpose
Quite a few numbers of people reach the purpose stage where they are able to clearly and distinctly tell you what they want to do with their lives. The reason most people do not reach this level in life is:
Fear – A lot of people live in fear of what they could achieve and what they couldn’t. They are actually afraid of their capacities and what they can accomplish. Others are just afraid of starting out and stopping halfway because of challenges. This is the reason million dollar companies don’t even start off. Recently Mark Zuckerberg posted a picture of a light box he created using his engineering skills for his wife so she’d know when to wake up and encouraged someone, anyone to take up the idea and run with it. Now even with an idea so ideal, fear would put an end to it before it even blossoms.
Laziness – A lot of people are lazy about their lives and this is a big turnoff. They are too lazy to even think of how to better improve the quality of their lives. Finding you’re why needs a level of resolve, a craving to be more, to want more, to live better and bigger. Without that, it is pretty much a flat liner as no one can take responsibility and adequate care of your life more than you.
Processing – It is one thing to be lazy or afraid about what the future holds for you but another problem people face is when they do not take out time to process and think on these issues well. This means they do think about them but probably hastily or not enough. When you intend to find the driving course of your life, you need critical thinking and appraisal of your options and your choices. You need to understand the level of your push and your interest in what you want to do. This is because when you believe in a product or a business, then you would give all it takes to make it work because it is your way.
The question to ask now and again is what is your why? If you have an answer to this question, then you are halfway there otherwise it is time to find that purpose.
