Good habits and rituals are the foundation stones to a happier life. Being your best self is all that you need to be real in your life. A happier life is directly proportional to your mental health. The very same perspective is shared by Coach Mike Bayer where he has shared a few best habits and rituals to overcome sadness and other related issues.
Mental Health- a Broader Term
Mental health is that one issue which is still not openly discussed. Few people talk about it while others try to cover it as much as possible. However, mental health is a topic of a huge spectrum. There is one way to have better mental health that is to improve it emotionally. It does not matter how well-adjusted a person one may be, he is still seeking mentors, advice from every other person. Everybody is trying to improve that one part of their life which is not satisfactory.
One misconception about improving mental health is that it is for people who are depressed or suffering from schizophrenia etc. However, it is not just that. Perhaps, it is just a single part of the huge spectrum.
This improvement can also be termed as recovery. The best part about people going through recovery is the forced self-awareness that begins to take place. The revelations and learning of oneself are the best gifts of recovery. Sometimes people who don’t need to go into recovery never get that gift. It is just the self-reflection of oneself.
When asked by the coach about the habits he adopts on a routine basis for his mental wellness, he replied that he call them rituals which are essential for a happy life.
Self-Talk
The first thing is to look in the mirror every morning and be you. You can listen to your favorite music to get you to distract from all the depressing stuff filling your mind. All these simple things help you a lot to have a happy and contented life.
Talking about the mirror talk, he said that it is the most powerful self-talk that one can do. Looking in the mirror is actually looking at your aesthetics. It is the real inner reflection of yours. Moreover, it is all about what do you say to yourself and what it says back to you. Mike explains his way of self-talk. He faces the mirror, goes on his knees, and keeps on telling you to be your own coach. You are enough for yourself. Because we are all humans and we navigate life. Bowing down on knees is just out of humility.
The best time to do this is when you are going public or you feel there is some pressure. Do it when you doubt that you cannot be yourself. Do it when you doubt that you might feel down. Or do it when you feel that the concentration of your confidence is low. And do it when you want to become a superman. You better know that good comes when you are yourself.
If you are ever feeling obsessed with yourself, which we all do, it is tough to get out of that obsession. This is one way to get out of yourself by not getting out of your obsession.
Mike relied on the very same reason for choosing his profession. The coach confessed that helping people makes him feel that spiritual connection to life.
Pray
Other rituals might include going on your knees and asking God to support you before any significant encounter. Praying on knees gives you a version of humility thus; it helps in building your confidence.
Praise and Compliment Others
In addition to that, if you are shy and cannot socialize with people much you can adopt this very simple habit. You can praise people publicly by saying ‘May God blesses you,’ or ‘Peace is with you’ etc. This habit gives you strength, comfort, and humility leading to a happier version of life. You can also do this in a bit informal way. Give a compliment to your friends and you will feel better. Or to the strangers even. People love anonymous compliments. Simply put, if you want to change your state of mind start complimenting.
First, it forces you to become a habitual observer of people’s blessings and giftedness. It feels so good to give them that gift. Also, you feel like you may be the only person who can give them that sincere compliment. One good compliment of yours can have multiple ripple effects on others. That can be one reason why you don’t like watching news or politics because you cannot see someone blowing someone’s candles.
A Piece of Advice
Everybody wants to change something in their life. When asked by the coach for a bit of advice he would like to give to people advocating change, he divided it into two things. The first piece of advice is to set a goal. Setting your target is important because you cannot achieve anything if you do not have that in your sight. It must be measurable and practicable.
The second is having accountability. You have to figure out someone who can help keep you accountable. It can be anyone, even your mom or dad. Just ask them to keep a check by calling you twice a week.
Other than these two, the most pivotal tip is to know how coachable you are with that change. A lot of people do not have an answer to it but you have to figure it out on your own. You have to do it alone if you are not coachable. It happens with so many people out there. When you ask any successful man for tips, he always gives you advice. Hence, these are all the rituals and habits one can adapt to and a peaceful life both physically and mentally.
