Whenever change takes place, we find ourselves dumbfounded about how to start over and make the best out of the new situation we find ourselves in. However, it sometimes feels like we can never get out of the dark cage that’s binding us from dawning once again. Th
You’ve likely stood in a circumstance where you felt that things weren’t working out—perhaps, in your career growth or personal relationship. You feel stagnant and blue with how things are going.
Although you know you badly need change, you are scared to make a conscious decision to push through because you are not even sure about the changes that you actually need to make, or you are afraid you do not have the time to begin where you have left off in life.
Remember this: Just because things took longer than you want does not mean they won’t happen somewhere in the future. You need to trust the process. It will never ever be too late for you to start over. There’s always a way for you to step forward.
Not because you feel stuck does not mean it’s a “game over” for you. In this article, we’ll talk about some steps on how you could start over, allowing yourself to have a fresh start.
Accept the past
There is no way for you to change the past. Well, unless you have a superpower to turn back time, which I bet you do not have. Thinking and fixating yourself on the past will only flood you with regrets that could make it hard for you to face the present.
Rather than dwelling in your grievous past and wallowing in the events that you can never take back, you need to accept that you cannot change them. You just need to learn from them and let go. Let the past remain in the past to allow yourself to live in the present and look forward to the future.
Concentrate on the things you can change and bear the reality of your history. Everyone makes mistakes, may it be big or small. However, don’t beat yourself up too much over it. Learn from it and do better next time.
Reflect on what went wrong in the past
The best thing about mistakes is that they usually come with a lesson, which could serve as a new opportunity to make yourself a better person. Give yourself some time to sit back, ponder on everything that has happened in the past, and levy the situation to determine what are the things that went wrong.
Once you discover the root cause of everything, ensure that it won’t happen ever again. Past experiences also offer an opportunity to see things from an outside perspective. You should know clearly how you should approach a certain task or a goal, ensuring that you’re doing them the right way the second time around.
Acquire a fresh perspective
You need to modify how you perceive things if you want to change your current situation. Having an entirely new perspective will allow you to explore an entirely new point of view, and perhaps, you might change the course of your whole life.
Find what’s working and what’s not
One of the primary reasons why we want to start over is the fact that particular things aren’t working. Unfortunately, sometimes we don’t even know what.
As luck would have it, the human mind is so brilliant that all it needs to fix this problem is a few minutes of everyday introspection. Ponder on every single activity that led you up to that point. You can come up with a new routine, especially if your new grove needs an overhaul.
Most importantly, if things don’t work out, don’t feel downhearted because mistakes are an essential part of growth. You should look at these mistakes as a necessary learning opportunity not to commit the same mistakes again.
Leave your comfort zone
If you want to leave your comfort zone, venture into things you have never embarked on before. Do something that you have never done before and try out new experiences because that’s where growth takes place.
When you try out new things, you stimulate brain activities, leading to improved creativity and motivation. Moreover, these new experiences will fill you with a new sense of purpose, which could direct you to the best path for you.
Give yourself a pat on the back
Struggles are always present when you’re still trying out new things. These struggles could seem like you are not improving in the slightest sense─ but this isn’t entirely true. Although your progress might be slow, at least know that you are moving forward, no matter how little.
Don’t set aside all your little wins, and give yourself some credit for how far you have come. Recognize that you’ve given your best and you are doing your best job, deserving a path on the back. When you encourage yourself will help you build self-esteem that will compel you to do better each time you feel like giving up.
Expect setbacks
No person in the world who never did experienced setbacks in their life and they happen to everyone, especially to people looking to start over. Feeling anxious and frightened about taking new steps because of the setbacks you might encounter won’t do you any good since you can never really avoid these lapses.
Don’t allow reverses to knock you down on your feet and drive you aimlessly. Make sure to be only driven by your goals and nothing else.
Take a break
Don’t rush things out. You are not in a race. You are not a robot that does not get tired— you are a human being who has feelings and emotions. You are exhausted, so you need to take a break.
Taking a break isn’t about giving up. Sometimes, you just need to disconnect yourself for a while before you keep going once again. Giving yourself some rest also fills you with a sense of peace and serenity that is necessary for self-evaluation and assessment.
Remember your values
The values you possess depict you as a person. However, this does not mean that your values cannot change. When you make a decision to jerk all over, it is equally as crucial to identify your values.
Assess your priorities as well, along with your values— how have they changed over the years or remained just the same, or do they matter as much as before? The answer to these questions will shape your priorities.
Find a mentor
There’s no way for you to get through life on your own. Even teachers are a student at one point in their lives. Hence, if you want to start over, finding a mentor could be one of the best things you can do.
Look for a mentor who has acquired things you have never dreamed of. Your mentor could also be someone who completely understands your situation’s circumstances and has also previously overcome them.
