Young men often carry mistakes that lead to regrets into their adulthood. Regrets often happen in the end. However, even if you realize your faults, you can never take the clock back and change things no matter how much you want to.
Time will never stand still for you, so it is important to make solid strides while you are still young. Here are the 20 rules for young men that you should take good note of:
Not everybody has the opportunity to go back in time and change their course of life or how they treat themselves and other people. Here are 20 life rules that every young man should know.
Know the difference between love and lust
Two famous four-letter words starting with “L” define romantic relationships— love and lust. These two sneaks in many relationships fairly often, but only a few are able to distinguish the difference between the two.
If you’re in a relationship with someone you can see your future with, that’s love. When you spend time with someone just for the sake of connection, enjoying each other’s company, taking pleasure in sexual relations without goals of marrying in the future, it may be lust.
Watch a movie all by yourself
For many people, watching movies is an extremely enjoyable social activity. Whether you are spending quality time with your friends or having a good date night with your significant other, watching a movie seems to be a lot better with a companion.
But watching movies alone is not bad at all. It provides you a rare chance to disengage from all distractions of the world and helps you think about your future.
Hygiene is way more important
Good hygiene involves maintaining all parts of your external body healthy and clean, from shaving to taking a bath every day and keeping yourself good-smelling the time.
Proper hygiene is more important than you think because it talks more about your character than your own outward facade. When you can take good care of yourself, it means you are capable of handling other things as well.
Never date your friend’s ex
This is taboo in any friendship. If you have a friend who broke up with his ex-wife, and the girl calls you to meet, don’t even try showing yourself up. This may lead to something to something unpleasant in the future.
Dating your friend’s ex might cause you to lose all of your friends because of distrust. Like, they might think you will hook up with their girls too. If friendship matters to you, don’t cross the lines.
Stay informed on the latest news
A sheep has a brain similar to humans, only that it was way smaller. While you are still young, make sure to expand your knowledge, always be on top of the news, and gather as much as many information that you can.
Don’t be a sheep with a tiny brain. Always stay informed about the latest news, have your own opinion about it, and convey it in a way that doesn’t offend anybody.
Avoid making fun of your goals
A joke is good for breaking the ice, but it is not good to make a shaggy-dog story just for the sake of a good laugh. If you are serious about achieving your goals and dreams, why would you make them a laughingstock for other people? Make jokes, but never about your dreams and aspirations.
Don’t bully those who are weaker than you
Even if you have influence, money, and power, don’t bully other people who are way weaker than you just to feed your ego. If you do that, perhaps, you’re still insecure about your standing and want to prove something in society.
Identify the types of people who upset you and why
Admit it or not, there was a time you got upset with a person without even wondering the reason behind their action. Don’t do that. When you get upset with a person, think carefully and put yourself into that person’s shoes to understand him better.
If the reason behind their action is acceptable, calm yourself and acknowledge that things are not entirely their fault. However, if you get upset with a person because of his negative attitude towards people, avoid that person.
Be aware of your sensitivity level
If you are too sensitive, there’s a big possibility that you will react to every friction that occurs. Be conscious of your sensitivity level to be able to react to situations a lot better. Don’t always be overly sensitive and run away every time you get hurt.
Stand up against bullies
Don’t let anyone bully you physically or emotionally. If you don’t stand up for yourself, you will have to suffer for a very long time.
Be brave. Stand up against these bullies and show them you’re not someone they can just trample on. Do this just even once to build a strong reputation that people would not dare to bully.
Learn how to tell stories
Storytelling is a powerful approach that leaders use to teach, inspire, and influence. It forges a connection between people, helps in conveying history, and unites people. If you want to lead, if you want to share your point efficiently, learn how to tell stories.
Read good books
Watching pornography would create unrealistic expectations about your partner’s sexual behavior, which may bring chaos to your relationship. Porn videos establish a false impression of sexual behavior and what a person’s normal body looks like.
Instead of watching such videos, look for the right books that will help you and your partner mutually satisfy the expression of your love.
Never feel wrong about being ambitious
Being ambitious is not bad at all. In fact, if you’re striving to grow a business, congratulations. It’s a sign that you truly care. Instead of feeling guilty, be motivated to take audacious actions. Success starts with ambition.
You don’t marry just the girl, but the entire family
If you want a long-lasting relationship with your partner, make sure to be in a good relationship with her family too. During your marriage, if problems arise, your partner’s family will be the first people she will reach out to. If you’re not on good terms with her family, you are most likely to get bashed. This will add fuel to your partner’s rage.
On the other hand, if you’re close with her family, they will help you make up.
Don’t always share your complaint
Complaining is an unattractive quality as if telling the world that you are helpless. Some people will care about you, but there will also be people who will be glad you have a problem. Don’t share your grievances all the time.
Be impressed with the things that really matter
It’s easy to get impressed by things like luxury cars, costly vacation houses, and fancy trips. It’s okay, be inspired with those material things. However, what should impress you more is a person’s success story, how he built up a small business from the ground up, and how he overcame challenges.
Have a memorable style
A person’s style sometimes reflects what they stand for and having your own style would establish a memorable personal brand.
Impress less, ask more
Eating up your ego when you come across someone successful is quite challenging. Sometimes, you might also want to come strongly to make an impression.
However, if you have a chance to talk with someone successful, make that an opportunity to learn something from that person. You might not leave an impression, but you get someone more valuable in return.
Always have cash, condoms, and power banks
You need to have cash in times of emergency, condoms to avoid sexual consequences, and power banks that you can lean on when you get stuck somewhere with no electricity. Always be prepared for things unseen.
Always give your best effort
Even if you are working for something with little to no returns at all, you should still make sure to give your best. It might seem like you are not getting benefits at all, but you are actually getting more in return— you improve your skills and build up a good reputation for yourself. Giving your best will not be to your advantage.
