Don’t you want something more with your life? It is not just a matter of time that happiness will knock at your door. Rather you have to do something to attain the status of being ‘Happy.’
Jenna Kutcher, an entrepreneur, an inspiration of so many and a mother shares her take on being happy. With that, she shares her experience of work life and home life. Moreover, she also explained about balancing being a mother and an entrepreneur. You will also learn amazing tips to stay happy and contented in life. And this can only be done by you and for you.
You cannot just mix up things in life and wants everything to go smoothly. You have to keep everything in its place. As Jenna Kutcher explained that she has always kept her personal and work life separated. Talk about work at the office and life at home.
She further talks about how she manages her work and home simultaneously. Whenever she goes on a date with her husband, they both keep their phones in the car. Moreover, she has a separate floor for charging phones at night. Phones do not come in the bedroom.
What Brings You Joy
This is one of the main concerns Jenna has raised about life. How one can actually figure it out?
According to her, in order to attain joy, you must have true support in your life. She finds that joy in physical and mental support. Furthermore, she conveniently called her husband the best dad and husband. She found that very support in her husband who does grocery, lunch, dinner, and everything for her and kids. She, in turn, honors the contentedness while not letting that stall her.
Meanwhile appreciating that contentedness, she always tries to encourage him to strive for more. It is all about ebb and flow or gives and take. But sometimes it must be the season of both for you.
Your partner should only be concerned with you and not with what you do. This is where the value of your relationship grows. We get validation too often for what we are doing as an achiever. And it is magnificent that you can be with someone who loves you for your being.
It might sound controversial but your spouse doesn’t need to know every single thing that you are doing in business. You just have to make him care about you and not your work.
A lot of people out there might be praising and wanting this controversial stance. But it is actually huge. Having someone caring for who you are and not what you do is huge. However, a lot of people base their relationships on what you do. It is exhausting in one way or another.
One drawback of having all such blessings is that you become insecure. It starts popping in your heart that maybe you have too much. It’s human psychic. He feels sad when he has not much and insecure when he has too much. Jenna shares the very same perspective. She is insecure about being too powerful, too unemotional, and driven.
Now when she pulls her seat up to the table with men, she feels it’s too much for a woman to say that. Although she becomes too confident but insecure too. This is because women are taught that being strategic is conniving. And when you are good at making strategies you become too unemotional.
Emotions and business can never go side by side. You have to handle business unemotionally to be emotional in life. One tip is to make business-related decisions unemotionally because you need to do it this way. Hence, you are neither enough nor less so where do you stand in life? This is the question to ponder upon and only women can do it.
Everybody wants something
Some people want to be thinner, some more muscular, some rich, and so on. Above all, everybody wants to be happier. With all-new technological advancements of social media, you can access medicines, diet plans, mediation tips, business strategies, and like everything. What this technology is unable to provide so far is lessons on how to stay happy.
Everybody has their standards for measuring happiness. Some people consider living on the oceanfront as a happy thing. Go get it. But if life is measured on the difference you make or how close can you get to God, a lot of people can do better in that area. Therefore, it is a hard question to answer.
When someone says that he wants to be happier, what will be your answer to that?
Jenna answers this in a very subtle way. She says to talk to yourself the way you talk to your loved ones. There’s an inner dialogue that is controlling us. You will be proud of yourself when the words you are thinking about yourself right now will show up on the walls of the world. It’s not just for women but for everyone. Self-talk is important. Look in the mirror and talk to yourself as to what you want, where you stand, and what will you do next.
She explained it with a beautiful example. She says: You look at a past picture of yourself and you remember the insecurity you are feeling when that picture was taken, have you ever done that? You can turn that insecurity into happiness. Instead of remembering those bad feelings, you can recall good feelings too. Talk to yourself that how beautiful you were when the picture was taken and something like that. Draw out positive things from your insecurities.
If we change the way we talk to ourselves instead of highlighting insecurities, we will feel happy and contended. You have to change the dialogue in your head every single day. Speak to yourself positively and render all negative thoughts.
It cannot be done overnight. You have to decide to be kind to yourself. You have to vow to love yourself the way you love your daughter. Try to control that conversation today before you start feeling worthless.
You have to believe in yourself that you are in control of your destiny. Just go with the flow and believe that you have a gift to offer to the world and it is a disservice for you to shy away from that. Have confidence that you earned the seat at the table and you are not going anywhere. Say that to yourself and let other people believe that in your power. That’s it.
Women are selfless. They care for others before caring for themselves in whatever field of life they are in. Jenna, as a mother believes that she cannot take care of her children if she doesn’t take care of herself first. You will make much more significant strides in life when you give yourself the care you need. You cannot pour from an empty cup. How are you filling your cup today?
